♥ Sometimes, just sometimes... ♥

We obviously have different experiences that changed our lives and sometimes, when we go back and find the lesson from that experiences, the price is that, we rarely lets us down when we encounter the same event. But sometimes, its very tough to learn because of pride? Sometimes, we always believe that we are right all the time. "i'm right and you're wrong." attitude. I remember when my big brother scolded me like crazy when i was 11... lolz.. THAT very moment, i learned a lot.. the part that sometimes, the urge of defending yourself will nearly always get embroiled or involved? in conflict. 

It's really good to always try to remind myself that when someone is criticizing me, its trying to tell me something important, and that, on some level, its always RIGHT... arrrgggghhhhh!!! lolz.. It took a while for me to understand what does LISTENING CAREFULLY actually means. The very frist time, i set foot in Cambodia, (12 years ago - first foreign country i first stepped in). There were lot of things that i didn't understand but slowly when i opened up my senses, picture's are becoming so clear. I've learned that there's a fine line between UNDERSTANDING and GAINING the real meaning of "WISDOM." Sometimes, it makes me smile when i hear people say, I know what WISDOM means! I just shut it and listen carefully to what its saying rather than dwelling on the part that seems distorted or unfair. 

At the end of the day, i guess the best part when people criticise you is that, it wakes that sleeping wisdom in you. Perhaps its TRUE or NOT but since we are equipped with wisdom, we acknowledge that criticism in a friendly way, handling with humility and self-respect. I've learned and convinced that there's always a great deal of truth in any criticism. Of course, its normal, that your initital reaction when you hear criticism is getting angry or upset because you are hurt and sometimes push you to attack or fight back. BUT if we acknowledge the truth in it. I think, we will eventually find that a criticism is also a wake up call. Forget about the people who throw criticism to you, just look and try to understand who they are, instead.

I am not a perfect person and yes, nobody is perfect and that leads me to learning, up to now. I've also learned that WISDOM and PRIDE actually goes together sometimes, YOU will have a hard time gaining wisdom IF you don't understand what PRIDE means. Honestly, i know its embarrasing but we just need to swallow our pride sometimes. I swallow my pirde when its needed and it feels great! Once you get used to it, it clears your path and it makes you feel good. It will take a while but like what they say... better TRY than never....

"When I refrain from doing to others that which I hate to be done to me."-  Uknown... - that is being wise sometimes.... 

(photo quoted borrowed from the google)