♥ Sometimes, just sometimes... ♥

We obviously have different experiences that changed our lives and sometimes, when we go back and find the lesson from that experiences, the price is that, we rarely lets us down when we encounter the same event. But sometimes, its very tough to learn because of pride? Sometimes, we always believe that we are right all the time. "i'm right and you're wrong." attitude. I remember when my big brother scolded me like crazy when i was 11... lolz.. THAT very moment, i learned a lot.. the part that sometimes, the urge of defending yourself will nearly always get embroiled or involved? in conflict. 

It's really good to always try to remind myself that when someone is criticizing me, its trying to tell me something important, and that, on some level, its always RIGHT... arrrgggghhhhh!!! lolz.. It took a while for me to understand what does LISTENING CAREFULLY actually means. The very frist time, i set foot in Cambodia, (12 years ago - first foreign country i first stepped in). There were lot of things that i didn't understand but slowly when i opened up my senses, picture's are becoming so clear. I've learned that there's a fine line between UNDERSTANDING and GAINING the real meaning of "WISDOM." Sometimes, it makes me smile when i hear people say, I know what WISDOM means! I just shut it and listen carefully to what its saying rather than dwelling on the part that seems distorted or unfair. 

At the end of the day, i guess the best part when people criticise you is that, it wakes that sleeping wisdom in you. Perhaps its TRUE or NOT but since we are equipped with wisdom, we acknowledge that criticism in a friendly way, handling with humility and self-respect. I've learned and convinced that there's always a great deal of truth in any criticism. Of course, its normal, that your initital reaction when you hear criticism is getting angry or upset because you are hurt and sometimes push you to attack or fight back. BUT if we acknowledge the truth in it. I think, we will eventually find that a criticism is also a wake up call. Forget about the people who throw criticism to you, just look and try to understand who they are, instead.

I am not a perfect person and yes, nobody is perfect and that leads me to learning, up to now. I've also learned that WISDOM and PRIDE actually goes together sometimes, YOU will have a hard time gaining wisdom IF you don't understand what PRIDE means. Honestly, i know its embarrasing but we just need to swallow our pride sometimes. I swallow my pirde when its needed and it feels great! Once you get used to it, it clears your path and it makes you feel good. It will take a while but like what they say... better TRY than never....

"When I refrain from doing to others that which I hate to be done to me."-  Uknown... - that is being wise sometimes.... 

(photo quoted borrowed from the google)

It says write everything that you want to write and if it’s a lot, subdivide them into parts that you can best describe your thoughts. By doing so, this will help you elaborate more of your ideas. I’m smiling whilst typing this. It’s amazing how you can construct lines when you are inspired.

Just now, I clicked on my spinner to play that track. Soft, calm music in the morning PLUS a cup of coffee to booze me up… and its helping to keep the day going. It’s a good morning even if the sun is not shinning at this moment but to make yourself feel good, do something that makes you happy, like this, it shines at least the rest of your day.

Oh well, since there are a lot of things in mind. I thought of breaking down the things that “I’ve learned or We’ve learned…” in fact, without all these experiences, we will never gain wisdom to help us grow.  We just have to look at what exactly is telling us to do for us to avoid making the same mistakes (again) and if it’s a goodie then I guess will develop more, instead. Here are few that I thought I can share. I know you have a lot too, so why not share it as well.

Here, you looking at the things that “Someone” learned from his/her life. I am sharing the same sentiments too, that’s why I am sharing them with you. Enjoy and I hope all is well.

In life….

I've learned that you cannot push someone to love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.

I've learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

I've learned that it's not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that counts.

I've learned that you can get by on charm for about 15 minutes. After that, you'd better know something.

I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do, but to the best you can do.

I've learned that it's not what happens to people that's important. It's what they do about it.

I've learned that no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides.

I've learned that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I've learned that it's a lot easier to react than it is to think.

I've learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I've learned that you can keep going long after you think you can't.

I've learned that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I've learned that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I've learned that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I've learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I've learned that learning to forgive takes practice.

I've learned that there are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it.

I've learned that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I've learned that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

I've learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.

I've learned that I'm getting more and more like my grandma, and I'm kinda happy about it.

I've learned that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I've learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I've learned that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

I've learned that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I've learned that you should never tell a child her dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if she believed it.

I've learned that your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological.

I've learned that no matter how good a friend someone is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I've learned that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I've learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I've learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I've learned that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.

I've learned that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.

I've learned that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I've learned that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I've learned that the clothes I like best are the ones with the most holes in them.

I've learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I've learned that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.

I've learned that there are many ways of falling and staying in love.

I've learned that no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves, get farther in life.

I've learned that many things can be powered by the mind, the trick is self-control.

I've learned that no matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar, you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most.

I've learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I've learned that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

I've learned that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains.

I've learned that the paradigm we live in is not all that is offered to us.

I've learned that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.

I've learned that although the word "love" can have many different meaning, it loses value when overly used.

I've learned that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you believe.

I’ve learned that no matter what you do to maintain a certain relationship, it will never go straight if its only you maintaining it.

I’ve learned that when you are down and nobody is there to be with. Pray and when you say your prayers, say it from the bottom of your heart and be honest about it.

I’ve learned that my cyber friendS are much better to talk with because they are there for you, 24/7/365 days a year.

I’ve learned that, its better to shut it when you don’t know the answer. (Why invent a line that may cause a war?)

I’ve learned that, people will never look at the good things you do because they believe that they did better than you.

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